Monthly Archives: October 2013

broken-trust“I don’t know how to make friends?” “I don’t think I’ll ever be able to trust again.” “I feel socially backward.” These are just a few of the statements I hear from former Jehovah’s Witnesses who have parted ways with the faith.  The root cause always comes down to one thing:  trust has been broken. Continue reading When Trust is Broken

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We’re Not Alone

When I first parted ways with Jehovah’s Witnesses over two decades ago, I’ll never forget the sense of isolation I felt. Of course, this is what the JWs were banking on–it’s how they control people…with fear.  When you’re given the boot from the Watchtower organization, everyone you’ve associated with in the religious group shuns you–even family.  There can be no greater rejection than when your family turns their back on you. Continue reading We’re Not Alone

What really gets me fired up…

There are some things in this world that completely unhinge me–child molesters are one of one of those things.  What is also despicable is when an organization claiming to be inspired by a loving god chooses to keep policies in place that protect those pedophiles, instead of their innocent victims.

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My Journey Out of Cognitive Dissonance

Someone recently asked, “What was it that made you leave Jehovah’s Witnesses?”  This is a commonly asked question by folks who have just left the organization.  At the time of my departure, I would have given you a laundry list of supposed reasons and absolutely none of them had to do with the religion to which I was enslaved:  marriage, in-laws, work, too much pressure, illness.  But, that was my programmed mind making up reasons to reconcile them with what I thought was the truth.  I thought I must have been a bad person, a spiritually weak person, to have those things affect me to the point of an emotional breakdown.  However, that just wasn’t true! Continue reading My Journey Out of Cognitive Dissonance

The “Ugly Filter”

As a hobbyist nature photographer, I was delighted this morning when I found a box of new lenses and filters at my doorstep. Of course, I had to try out each one on my camera to see how the view of my world would change.  One filter, in particular is used to refract light in creative ways.  With small adjustments I can control from which direction the light comes in, to capture the beauty in new ways.

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Entertain a Thought

Aristotle’s quote, “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it,” has significant meaning as I begin a new blog.  For more than half my life I lived as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, part of the 4th generation in my family to do so.    Twenty-two years ago I left, never to return.  That part of my story is shared here.

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